Disability is not Inability

:: Do become friends

Husband and wife must be friends first before being a couple. And when you say your spouse is your best friend, you communicate a lot about your relationship.

“My wife is my best friend,” says Allan. “I don’t do anything without telling her and if she objects to something, I hear her out. Usually, she has good reason for saying no. “Friendship really is the glue that holds a marriage together.”

The couple recently celebrated their 13th wedding anniversary by booking themselves into a hotel in South Africa for a week. When their friends heard about it, they wondered how the couple survived an entire week of each other’s company.

“A whole week? Just the two of you? What on earth did you talk about?” were some of the questions asked. But Allan is certain that even if he were left in the middle of the Kalahari Desert with his wife for two months, he wouldn’t get bored.

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My wife and I talk about anything, good or bad. Even when there is a thorny issue, we will sit and talk about it until it is resolved,” Allan says.

“Without friendship, a woman is too scared to even suggest to her husband that she desires him physically,” Kathy adds.

“Lack of communication is very, very dangerous for a relationship. The longer you prolong the ‘silent treatment; the bigger the rift you are creating between you.” She warns.