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:: The Kiuna Pastors experience
Both are pastors with the Jubilee Christian Church and they share
their experience gained from counseling couples and 13 years of
marriage “Before my wife, l have no ego,”
says Allan, to which his wife adds, “The ego prevents
you from enjoying marriage. Without it, Allan
and l have been very happy.”
Their experience begins with an established power
relations that many marriages have not been able to build: Do
submit to your husband. This era of gender equity
many have failed to see how a wife can submit with all the domestic
violence, adultery and the pressures
of poverty. But Kathy and Allan Kiuna first
became friends before they became husband and wife.
They have learnt to build communication beteen them during friendship
and now can easily say sorry
to each other.
Sex life is one area from which many marriages start feeling the
heat. We dont like exploits and are too boring. Wives after the
first two children tend to loose the shape that tinkled the man
she married. Couples,
enjoy your bodies to enjoy sex.
Dont become predictable. Just like dressing when s/he arrives
from work, don't make love-making or cooking style predictable.
Dont use sex as a weapon
either, it soon becomes a commodity that the partner can seek
outside. That in exchange for a dress or airtime..
The kids can also destroy your sexual bliss. The Kiuna's advice
that you dont sleep with the
kids. They would create a barrier that is not easy
to reconstruct. What about the househelp?
Wives don't let the house
girl control your home or she may end up the house
wife. Yet a man must maintain respect and dignity by not laying
the maid...
Originally written by KWAMBOKA OYARO in
the Daily Nation May 23rd 2007. with additions from disabilitykenya.
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