Disability is not Inability

:: Challenges in marriage for women with disabilities...

The advantages are, they could understand each other, because they have the same feelings and also they could support each other. However, the disadvantages are, such kind of union should be limited, much closed to the other people. We know all that the “handicap or disability “is neither a sickness nor an epidemic.

This means that in marriage children are expected, especially in Africa. Getting children is the first deal of a marriage. Then children born in this union are not disabled children. But, many studies show that there are psychological problems for children born with both parent with especially a communication disability. They could be affected.

Especially in among the deaf people case (that why it is advised to the deaf people couple to have some hearing people around them so that they could help a child to develop his capacities for hearing and speaking). There have also been a number of success cases. Children in such marriages develop alot of responsibilities at a very tender age. E specially if they have developed the communication abilities that their parents lack.

Marriage between people with disability and valid people means that two people who are married to each other, one has a handicap and other does not have any apparent handicap. On one hand, this kind of union, two of them must make efforts to understand each other, because, they have not same feelings. If there is not honesty love in their couple, one could pretend to love the other, but just to gain something from him/or her. On the other hand, mixed couple could support each other, both of them would be feel excited or completed; especially in the case of woman with disability, she will feel sufficient and self-confidence. The saying 'two shall become one' will be effectively expressed in the union.

Despite this point of view, “love is love “when the heart is engaged it could do everything and anything. But love should have also the eye and ears open when it wants to engage. The last marriage is an ideal, as long as we support social integration we should encourage mixed marriages. The marriage beteen valid menand woman with disability is like a bush not exploited. We welcome apparently valid people in our side and they will not be disappointed!