Disability is not Inability

:: WHAT SUBMISSION IS REALLY ALL ABOUT

In a world where marital strife is the norm rather than the exception it is always refreshing to meet couples that seem to have found a winning formula to a happy-ever-after union. KWAMBOKA OYARO in the Daily Nation May 23rd 2007.

The story goes about a man who was in the bar enjoying a beer late into the night. Under his table was a live chicken and when asked, he told his fellow drinkers that it was his supper, which his wife would prepare and cook for him when he eventually got home.

Like most men, he was simply trying to show that he was the undisputed head of the home and whatever he said was law. No woman would be happy to slaughter, de-feather and cook a chicken in the middle of the night no matter how much she loves her husband. And therein lay his power over her – because she would do it whether she like it or not.

Unless women become wise and think up ways of turning such an activity into a pleasure, the cycle of power and resentment goes on and couples grow to hate each other. At the heart of this problem lies stubborn pride or ignorance of the specific roles men and women are supposed to play in a marriage.

To avoid unnecessary unhappiness and turn marriage into something truly loving and warm, a couple cannot ignore the aspect of sacrificing their egos at the altar of their marriage liberated them from many of the common challenges faced by couples.

Pastor Mr and Mrs Kiuna shared with Kwamboka Oyaro tips on how they have worked their 13 years of marriage. Submission is about dealing with the ego as a husband and or a wife. "before my wife I have no Ego" Says Allan, to which his wife Kathy adds, "The ego prevents you from enjoying marriage."




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