Disability is not Inability

:: Do submit to your husband

Many women hit the roof when they hear this line, but what Kathy and Allan are adamant about is power. Both are very busy people but when they get home and Allan asks his wife to cook him a special dish, Kathy does not snap back, “Go do it yourself, I am tried too.” Instead, she consciously turns it into it into a pleasurable task and is done in minutes.

“I am a good cook and my husband loves my cooking. It is worth the effort because he is happy that I do it without complaining. And when he is happy, he easily returns the favour,” she says.

When dinner is served, Allan doesn’t forget to appreciate the effort and remind his wife that she is a wonderful cook and the most beautiful woman on earth. Appreciation, he says, is a powerful expression that helps couples connect intimately.

“When Kathy submits to me, she is saying that she understands who the leader of the home is. I in turn love her dutifully. If there is no love, a wife cannot submit to her husband. The union of husband and wife must be based on give-and-give.”

Allan is quick to clarify that submission does not mean lording it over his wife. He listens to her and will not make decisions without involving her. She submits by allowing him to be in charge.

“Where there is no leader, a family is lost,” Kathy says. “I have realized that a woman’s beauty is not about physical appearance but about how submissive she is.”

Allan says he respects his wife and also honours her. This would not be possible if they were always fighting about who should be in charge.